Your legacy 

As you get older you may start to wonder about what your legacy will be when you die. How will I be remembered? Will people remember me? Will my work be remembered? And so on. But what is it that really matters? We all die and all have that inescapable truth in common. To me what matters is how I treat people now. I try to do my best to do the right thing. I’m not perfect and have my share of regrets. But I try to learn from my mistakes. If I have treated people right then that is enough of a legacy for me. But we are all different and some may be more restless than I and worry that they have to do more to leave a legacy. Instead of focusing on the now, the present moment that flies by so fast. I want to cherish the time I share with the people I love because in the end that is all that really matters. Did I love and was I loved?


Diagnostic labels 

Diagnostic labels are bad. I think we’re all a bit of everything changing like the waves of the sea. Our bodies, thoughts and emotions are continually moving affected by many external and internal factors. People like diagnostic labels because when we read them we can examine ourselves  and make comparisons    which we humans love to do. If we can apply a label to our problem then we can be assigned the correct pill to help our issue. The pill will cost money so someone somewhere is making money from my problem. We don’t need diagnostic labels what we need is a bit more understanding and empathy.

tips for rural living 

For me rural living is being 3 miles from nearest village  shop and 100 miles from a city. I commute to work most weeks and average about 500 miles a week and this can vary greatly.

Tip 1.

Stock your food cupboards with everything you need to make most meals. Whenever I’ve lived in a city or town food is easily aquired at any time of day and I no longer eat takeaways. So instead I have ingredients to make a pizza for example (flour, yeast, cans of tomatoes). Our food cupboard looks very different to how it did when we lived in a city. We now stock many herbs, spices, oils, jams, flours. I am very grateful for this! When things are going well we have extra meat, cheeses and vegetables. We eat very well. In the city we ate more takeaways and convenience foods which are not as nutritious as fresh food.

Tip 2.

Own a vehicle. Rural living involves a lot more driving for some people and it is a fact of life if you want to go anywhere. Public transport is infrequent and taxis are expensive. I think it really depends on your circumstances.

Tip 3.

Do stuff yourself. It’s good to be able to sort out problems and be independent. You also want to balance this with being able to ask others for help when needed. But if a plug needs changing, a fence repairing or a car tyre need replacing then it’s helpful to be able to do these sorts of tasks yourself.

tip 4. 

Bad internet can be improved. Rural internet sucks. It has to travel further down the wires meaning it loses a lot of speed. But you can pester your supplier to change the cabling going up to and into your property as a lot of the cables are out of date and need replacing. 

There’s not a day goes past I am thankful for the wonderful countryside I occupy with my friends. We share this incredible environment where wild animals and plants co exist with us humans and our domesticated creatures. Sure rural living has it’s downsides but for me the positives far outweigh the negatives. If I have to spend a little more time in our car to reach this fabulous place I call home then that’s a trade I’m happy to make. 

If I think of anymore I will post here. What are your tips for rural living.

You are awesome 

Remember how awesome you are and be kind to yourself. Your body is incredible and can do amazing things like heal itself. If you have sustained a terrible injury physically, emotionally or both it may take a long time to heal and when it does it will not be the same again. You may feel differently, change is certain. It’s up to you how you cope with the changes. You are awesome.

a place of healing

Is a hospital a place of healing? I would imagine a place of healing to be stuffed full of nature. Like a garden with flowers, herbs, trees and shrubs. Plants with healing properties. Fresh water bubbling out of a spring which runs into a small stream supporting life that helps feed the eco system around it. Yet when I visit a hospital its the complete opposite of this. A man made maze of corridors that connect lots of rectangle rooms with cold hard floors. The artificial  heating system combines with the odours of people in a stuffy environment. No fresh air. How can healing happen in a sterile place like this?

Written on 28/03/17